The Healing Power Of Generosity

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Today I woke up in one of my funky moods. One thought jumped into my head, “I feel like my life is not mine.” If you read my post on combating melancholy, you know that I get this way sometimes. I felt a kind of crushing sadness and helplessness, seemingly out of the blue. But I knew that wasn’t true – it wasn’t out of the blue.

Yesterday I listened to an interview conducted by  Joel Friedlander of The Book Designer. He was interviewing Dave Chilton, venture capitalist, television personality, and multimillionaire who built his fortune by self-publishing. They were discussing The Chilton Method – A Unique Formula for Creating an Exceptional Book and Selling Tons of Copies…From a Guy Who’s Sold Millions!

The interview was very insightful. Dave Chilton has great ideas on book marketing which every author should listen to. But, he also reminded me of all the work ahead; for my blog, and later for publishing and marketing my books. I felt a bit overwhelmed. After talking to a very good friend and coming up with a plan, I felt much better, good even.

But the morning brings its own troubles. My good friend wasn’t available, but someone else popped up – an old friend and colleague. Continue reading “The Healing Power Of Generosity”

How To Combat Melancholy And Negative Thinking

negativityWe all get sad sometimes, and some of us more than others. And who is more melancholic than the reclusive writer? Suffice to say, I’ve dealt with my own bouts of thoughtful sadness. But we shouldn’t allow these negative thoughts and feelings to continue rattling in our heads, and sometimes slowing or halting our progress.

As one who’s had to deal with the affliction, I have learned a few things about combating it. In this article, I will give you practical steps you can take to resurrect yourself from the blues. They always work for me. If you give them a chance, they may do the same for you.

Step 1: Acknowledge your thoughts and emotions

What are you really feeling? Why are you feeling that way? We sometimes use anger to mask more vulnerable feelings like guilt, hurt and fear (Psychology Today). Let us get to the bottom of our true feelings. We need to recognise these thoughts and emotions to figure out if they are justified or rational. You should ask yourself if it is rational for you to think of yourself a certain way. Continue reading “How To Combat Melancholy And Negative Thinking”

Music to help you relax, and sometimes shut out the noise

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We have all been there; when our bodies scream at us for a break after hours of staring at the computer screen because of work or study. Or when we are trying to work, but our environment refuses to corporate; the neighbour drives in with his car radio a little too loud for comfort, or you can hear the TV from your room or office. Or maybe, when you are writing, you become sensitive to the slightest sound.

Should you quit your work because someone in the next three rooms is watching TV? Or the alternative is becoming a nocturnal animal; working when everyone else has finally quit?

I have a slightly less drastic suggestion – classical music. Continue reading “Music to help you relax, and sometimes shut out the noise”